3 Reasons To Learn Your Partner’s Native Language

Your partner’s native language is a reflection of their true identity and here are some reasons why you should learn their native language.

1. To meet the “true version” of your partner

Languages differ in many ways. The most noticeable are the differences in the accents, the words people use, and the way people structure their speech.

However, if you pay close attention, you may also notice a variety of differences. These include things like changes in posture, body language,  facial expressions, thought structures, assertiveness, voice pitch, and even sense of humour.

So, what is really happening beneath the surface?

Well, multilinguals know two or more cultures and languages. When they use a language, knowledge related to that particular language and it’s culture will be brought to the forefront. And as we know, language plays a huge role in shaping our responses, ideas, and opinions.

In turn, many multilinguals often say that they feel like a different person when they speak in a language that is non-native. Aren’t you curious about this difference of personalities? 

Well, if you learn your partner’s native language it is an opportunity to see the true version of your partner. You may even find something about them that you didn’t know. 

2. To speak to their heart/emotions

Nelson Mandela stated, “If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to their head. If you talk to him in his language it goes to his heart”. 

Psycholinguistic research shows that words you hear in a second language don’t activate feelings as strongly as words you hear in your first language. Understandably, it makes sense that language acquired from the people around you such as family or friends would carry a strong emotional resonance. 

Learning a language in a family context means that everyday language will carry a full range of human emotions. It is what we use to connect the physical experience of an emotion with specific phrases and words. Therefore, things such as swearing, praying, lying, and even saying I love you will feel very different if that language was acquired as an academic subject.

Acquiring language skills through a classroom setting will make you feel less or an emotional tie to the language. However, if it is learned or reinforced through immersion then emotional ties can be created. 

Your partner’s native language holds a lot of true feelings and emotions. Wouldn’t you say I love in their language speak to their heart more than saying it in their second language? Think about it.

3. To raise bilingual children

Research shows that children are like sponges, and they soak up languages the best when they are between birth and the age of three years old.

Using two languages at home will eventually become an incredible gift for your children. According to the Linguistic Society of America, there are many benefits in raising bilingual children. These benefits include more career options later in life, improvement in cognitive abilities and the possibility of increasing one’s lifespan.

Doesn’t this sound like a perfect gift for your child? 

Now, while all of this sounds good, I must bring this to focus. As time goes by you may become the only one that does not speak your partner’s language.

Hence, it’s best to learn your partner’s language early on when the thought of having kids together is still a distant possibility. If you learn the language yourself, you will be able to appreciate and encourage your child. 

PS. You can still learn if you already have children. They can help you to practice.

Do You Accept The Challenge?

Learning a second language is never easy. However, it will reinforce the bond you have with your partner, and it will teach you things about them that you would never understand otherwise.

Are you willing to learn your partner’s native language?

Let us help you get started by taking our personality test.



Caldwell-Harris C. L. (2014). Emotionality differences between a native and foreign language: theoretical implications. Frontiers in psychology, 5, 1055.

Chen, S. X., & Bond, M. H. (2010). Two Languages, Two Personalities? Examining Language Effects on the Expression of Personality in a Bilingual Context. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 36(11), 1514–1528.